For separated or divorced parents, ongoing disagreements about schedules, communication, and decision-making can quickly become overwhelming—for both families and the courts. In Massachusetts, Parenting Coordinators (PCs) are increasingly being used as a way to manage conflict, support children, and reduce the need for repeated court involvement. These professionals, who are often attorneys or mental health specialists, act as neutral third parties to help parents resolve day-to-day disputes and improve co-parenting dynamics.

What Is a Parenting Coordinator?

In Massachusetts, the use of Parenting Coordinators is governed by Standing Order 1-17 of the Probate and Family Court. A PC may be appointed either by agreement of the parties, subject to court approval, or directly by court order when appropriate.

The appointment order must clearly outline the PC’s qualifications, responsibilities, duration, and how fees will be allocated. Importantly, a court cannot require a party to pay for a PC’s services without that party’s consent, making cost arrangements an essential part of the agreement.

The Role of a Parenting Coordinator

A Parenting Coordinator’s primary role is to help parents manage and resolve conflicts related to custody and co-parenting. Their responsibilities may include:

• Facilitating communication between parents
• Assisting in resolving disputes about parenting schedules
• Providing guidance on decision-making issues
• Offering recommendations for adjustments to existing parenting plans

In some cases, and only where authorized by the court or agreed upon by the parties, a PC may have the authority to make binding decisions on limited issues—such as scheduling conflicts or extracurricular activities. However, their authority is carefully limited. They cannot decide fundamental matters like custody or child support unless specifically empowered to do so.

In practice, PCs often help resolve everyday disputes that might otherwise require court intervention. For example, they may assist parents in reaching agreement on holiday schedules or, where permitted, issue decisions to break deadlocks over routine parenting matters.

Benefits of Using a Parenting Coordinator

Engaging a PC can offer several advantages:

• A structured framework for resolving disputes
• Reduced frequency of court appearances
• Lower emotional strain on children
• Access to professionals experienced in conflict resolution and family dynamics

By addressing issues promptly and constructively, PCs can help create a more stable environment for children and reduce tension between parents.

Challenges and Considerations

While PCs can be highly effective, there are also important considerations:

• Cost: Fees for qualified PCs can be significant, and payment arrangements must be agreed upon
• Limited Authority: Their role is confined to what is defined in the court order
• Potential for Conflict: If expectations are unclear or authority is exceeded, disputes may increase
• Not a Substitute for Legal Counsel: PCs do not replace the need for attorneys or court involvement in major decisions

Careful planning and a well-defined appointment order are essential to ensure that the PC’s role is clear and effective.

A Valuable Tool in High-Conflict Cases

In high-conflict custody situations, Parenting Coordinators can play a meaningful role in improving communication, resolving disputes efficiently, and keeping the focus on the child’s best interests. Their effectiveness depends on clear boundaries, appropriate oversight, and a shared understanding of their function within the broader legal framework.

For families navigating ongoing custody challenges, consulting with a family law attorney can help determine whether a Parenting Coordinator is an appropriate option and how best to structure their involvement.